Rejection Is a Painful Experience, But This One Truth Will Heal You

Rejection

One common way to cope with this universal experience is to reconnect with those who already accept you

Rejection is a painful experience that can trigger a strong response in the brain, with over a dozen languages relating to being hurt. Psychologists often describe rejection as when we perceive that others don't value having social connections with us, such as being abandoned by a romantic partner, excluded from a group, or discriminated against. These interpersonal rejections have a social element that distinguishes them from not getting a job.
The pain of rejection often increases the more we value a relationship, but even rejections by relative strangers can hurt our feelings. Hurt feelings warn us about perceived threats to our social well-being. Some behavioral psychologists argue that this warning system developed when our prehistoric ancestors lived in small clans and depended on everyone they knew for survival. However, it is impossible to confirm this kind of evolutionary theory, but it doesn't include instructions for processing this intense emotional experience.

When feeling rejected, it is important to consider your relationship with the person rejecting you. Is this someone who knows you well and whose opinion you hold dear? Or is it just a loose acquaintance? If it's the latter, it might help answer the second question: does this rejection really matter? It can sting when a stranger doesn't laugh at your joke, but it doesn't make sense to react strongly to a rejection with little impact on your life.

People tend to be especially sensitive to rejection in situations where they have a low opinion of themselves, making it easier to misinterpret neutral reactions as rejections. Reflecting on your self-view and asking yourself if the other person is actually rejecting you can help you understand the rejection and think critically about the relationship you want with this person.

Every relationship and rejection is unique, but it's important to remember that you're never alone in dealing with rejection throughout your life. One common way to cope with this universal experience is to reconnect with those who already accept you.

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